From the Peeking in the Well blog, a comment below the post:
I’ve noticed that, too, in my neighborhood. The multi-child family is missing, leaving a generation of people with NO experience of living with someone who isn’t dedicated, day and night, to whatever makes them happy.
Terrible preparation for marriage, or parenthood, for that matter.
As a teacher, I can tell you that onlies are, by far, the most challenging to teach. They expect EVERYTHING to bend for them; late papers – you should accept them. Poor test scores – they “need” a re-test – at their convenience. Your teaching style – it should change, right now, so THEY can best achieve all that they can. Tutoring, for free? On THEIR time, at THEIR convenience.
None of my children or grandchildren are onlies. To me, the only child represents the enshrinement of the ME lifestyle – too many children would be inconvenient, expensive, and limit a woman’s career. It’s largely NOT the men that are driving this trend.
Trouble is – we all notice it in others because it inconveniences us, ourselves. We can then blog on it. But what of us? Just how selfish are we? Do we have the mental equipment to be realistic in terms of how others see us? You know that expression about painting by numbers – perhaps we need to be less demanding by numbers too, if it doesn’t come naturally.
The War Generation spoilt the Boomers by giving too much. Often, today’s single mothers do too and the children turn out little s***s [though little angels in the eyes of the mothers in question]. Unrealistic as to how others see them.
At the shop, when mothers bring children in, I dread it – we all do. Now that’s bad. where on earth is the delightful kid who goes over there and plays with some toy or stays by mum? Last week, we had what I’d estimate were a dozen kids in the shop – only the babies in pushchairs were all right. Any kid on his feet, below 15, was a monster and had to be watched by us like a hawk. When we’d ask them not to do that, the mothers would look at us as if we were low-grade vermin.
Perhaps those mothers should have been looking at themselves.
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