Slobby mums at school gates or mums with no time?
This one would get me into real trouble with the mums of Britain if they read this website, which I think perhaps they don’t.
The issue is Mums in PJs dropping their kids off at school and this was discussed in the TES. I presume what they were going on about is that a mother could at least dress to go out in the street.
Now, my own view is that I’m not averse to mums in PJs as a general principle – it’s rather easy on the eyes, as a matter of fact.
My issue instead is with two things:
1. A UK culture in which such a thing is seen as quite OK and I admit I’m comparing this with Russia, where I was stationed from 1996 to 2008, where not only would no woman be seen dead outside, for whatever reason, unless she looked $1 million but she would not even leave that bathroom without every hair in place and if it wasn’t in place, she’d go into hysterics and refuse to budge.
The result was stunning looking women wherever you went and early morning dropoffs of kids at school were seen as a fashion parade, a competition of sorts. Zero to do with impressing men – there were all women in the lobby, except for grandfathers and teachers, of whom I was the only male.
The notion of turning up to school wearing pyjamas just did not compute in the brain.
2. The self-justifications given in the comments section are not only intriguingly illogical, they’re sad:
If it’s a choice of mum in PJs or a late/absent child, I know which one I’d prefer. Depending on which child of course! [Shalala]
Shalala, fortunately for most women, it is not that choice at all. It is actually a choice between self-respect, together with a child on time or no self-respect, together with a child on time.
I personally don’t see what the issue is either way. Ok so it’s not very dignified and I do feel sorry for the kids of these slovenly mums, but in the grand scheme of things, surely it’s not such a big deal. [Neitherherenorthere]
What we have here on one side, clearly, is the “anything goes, let it all hang out culture” and adherents of that would find my post quite offensive.
On the other side, we have the continental women and those in the UK who do care what they look like, for example:
School starts here at 8 a.m. latest. Kids at school 7.45. We leave home at just after 7. Whether I was working or not, I have never, ever, not been dressed. I have never, ever overslept. Why on earth I should not have time to get out of my nightwear is beyond me. [Celtic Queen]
Oh my goodness, is Celtic Queen suggesting that standards, like charity, begin at home? Heaven forbid. And what do men feel?
I think they [the PJ mums] are indecent slobs with no self respect or respect for others . They are offensive and embarrassing to others. [Supporterx]
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Russia is certainly more appealing. Do you think it’s possible for the woman in black to be helped? I’m not holding out for stunning, merely viewable.
I certainly wouldn’t be seen outside the house in my nightwear. The first thing I do in the morning is get washed and dressed.
However there are a lot worse sights out and about around the supermarkets with flesh hanging out everywhere. At least jimjams are lot more modest.
What my wife has to say about the lazy and dirty British woman is quite unrepeatable.
Once you placed the gold ring on her finger, the lawyer in her pocket and signed the never-never for her minichav transport, jimjam journeys are going to be the least of your future problems.
No way would I go out in nightwear except maybe if there was some emergency, even then I would probably be thinking about throwing on a pair of jeans and a top.
Do they wash in the morning if they never get dressed? Ew! You would think they would have more self respect.Slutty… and not in a sexy way.
Track suits look sort of… and those horrible, often pink, velour things… well I wouldn’t wear them to the stores either, or where anyone could see me. For the record no way do I have one.
When I lived in England for a few years, I remember the dress code at the gate as mixed at best; but there was the slinky blond in jodphurs who didn’t appear to ride,and the one who wore long red wool coats with velvet hats and flowing scarves whilst riding her bike. I guess her daughter walked along? But then I did hear she drank a bit. Maybe she forgot the child.
Upon returning to the States, a mom backed her car into mine in the school car park…oops, she had her PJs on. Very embarassing for her, especially when it was discovered her husband was a work colleague.
It’s best to get dressed!
Its up to those women what they wear isn’t it? Just as it’s up to men what they flick through on their screens at work and noone has any right to judge, right?
By the way James do you look stunning when you leave the house? Just wondering.
I try to, Alison but sometimes the hair just won’t stay in place.
Hairspray! Or wax. Depending on what part we are admiring.