Don’t know what to think of this one
This blog doesn’t run posts on this topic as a rule. I did write on Polanski and Kercher because they were major issues with other things interwoven but not a straight paedo case.
Right, so she was 33 and they were 14 and 17. Lots of questions – did it depend on their age or on their character, naivety etc? You’re going to tear me to pieces on this but let me tell it as I would see it if I was 14.
Through my current day adult eyes, she was sick and something had to happen to her for sure. If she’d been a teacher in my school, she’d have been dismissed and what happened subsequently would have been up to the parents.
Through 14 year old eyes though, what would have been critical in my mind was whether I could have escaped from her. If I’d felt I could have got out of it, I’d have been right into it, if you see what I mean. I would have thought her crazy risking putting herself under my power but I would have wanted it to go on if I’d felt I’d had some input.
If she was the one making all the running and would not allow me any input, I would have got a bit scared and wanted to get out. If it was so clear, even to my 14 year old eyes, that she was just getting her own rocks off, then I would have been upset by that.
The only two similar things I can recall were these:
At 12, I had the hots for a 17 year old from the local girls school and I couldn’t summon up the courage to ask each time she walked by. That’s not much of an example.
OK, once, on a bus back from the north of Australia, when I was 15, a 19 year old girl and her friend slept [and I only mean slept] with me on the back seat of the coach. If you’re reading this, Marie B, it’s me. Truth was that I was the one angling to get her to allow me in so who seduced whom?
It traumatized me because I was hopelessly in love with her and had forgotten to get her number. Jail for her? Not in the least – if only we could have met up again.
Actually, not very good examples. What if a teacher had done that? Well [I'm thinking it out] … no, I think it would have been nice, exciting, as long as she wasn’t overtly using me. Remember, I’m only looking at it here through my 14 year old eyes.
Hell, I don’t know. Call it a double standard but if she’d been a man and the kid a girl – it would have been a different matter. One is inviting penetration and the other is penetrating.
Do I have double standards?
Filed under: Society & human issues
Since we are living in Europia, factor this into your deliberations: “The ages of consent for sexual activity vary by jurisdiction across Europe. Spain sets its age of consent at 13, and the rest of the countries have an age of consent between 14 and 17, except Turkey and Malta, which have the highest age limit, set at 18.”
Yucchh. This calls for a smooth Jack on the rocks and some Wagner, please.
I would say either way round it is wrong on the part of the adult with children in their charge.
It did happen at my school with a male teacher. I met the sister of the girl when I first started work and the affair had ruined the young girls life.
It’s not clear to me whether you had sex with neither of, one of, or both the girls on the bus.
As a reader’s letter in VIZ once said, at her trial, the 14-year old will be asked to give evidence by video link. They’ll say it’s to protect his anonymity. Actually it’s to prevent them that he’s grinning from ear to ear, which would spoil things for the prosecution.
If that we’re my son, I’d tell him to keep his mouth shut and tell the teacher to leave him alone in future, end of. Knowing full well they’d ignore me but hey.
With neither unless sleeping with them can be construed as something bad.
Your solution seems best to me too.